• When going on a first date, keep a positive frame of mind. Think about what you will learn about yourself on the date, what you like or don’t like, enjoying your time learning about someone new, or simply finding a new restaurant you would like to visit again. Changing your frame of mind can make a big difference in your dating success.
  • The goal of a 1st date is to get a 2nd date; not to reveal every detail of your life.
  • Look for the potential in a person; not perfection.
  • Initial attraction is great, but it is mostly based on lust. A small connection, on the other hand, can start a slow burn and turn a relationship into an inferno that lasts!
    First Date Conversation Topics
    It’s your first date and your getting nervous. What are we going to have to talk
    about? No worry the Matchmakers have put together some
    conversation starters to get you thinking. Remember! These ideas are meant to
    be the means to creating a conversation. Don’t just rapid-fire one question after
    another at your date.
    Some Basic Conversation Starters:
    • Where are you from?
    • Do you have any big plans this week?
    • How big is your family / how many siblings do you have?
    • Tell me about your family?
    • Do you have any pets?
    • Have you ever been outside of the country?
    • Where is your favorite place to go on vacation?
    • Where are your parents from?
    • What is your favorite food?
    • What is your favorite restaurant?
    • What music do you like to listen to?
    • What are your favorite bands?
    • What is your favorite movie?
    • What is your favorite TV Show?
    • Where do you work?
    • What was your best job?
    • What is the last movie you watched?
    • If you could go any place in the world where would you go?
    • How would your best friend describe you?
    • What city were you born in?
    • Did you have a nickname growing up? Who gave it to you?
    • If I opened your refrigerator right now, what would I find?
    • What is your favorite dessert?
    • Can you cook? What do you like to cook?
    • What is your favorite spectator sport? Participant sport?
    • If granted three wishes, what would they be?
    A successful first date conversation has less to do with what you say and more with how you say it. Remember to be confident in your body language. Keep your questions and your answers concise and upbeat. Always steer the conversation away from negative talk about past relationships and move the conversation to positive subjects. Don’t dominate the conversation, but maintain a balanced flow to the conversation. Most of all, remember that this is a first date. You don’t want to give your life history, nor do you want to hear your date’s life history. Have fun and figure out if you would like a second date.

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  1. After more than a couple of misses I am very excited to have met my last match. We seemed to hit it off right from the get go I am looking forward to getting to know Carolyn.

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